Step 9: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. The making of amends needs to be approached cautiously by codependent people. There are three things amends are or can be. There is one thing they definitely should not be. Amends can be these 3 things: 1) sincere effort to offer apology for past harm; 2) wonderful bridge-builders form more positive future relationships; 3) effective agents for removing the tremendous weight of guilt, shame and remorse.
The one thing amends should never be are installment payments on false guilt or false shame. (Serenity: A Companion for Twelve Step Recovery p. 62)
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12 Step Wisdom
There is an island of opportunity in the middle
of every difficulty.
There’s not a spot where God is not.